When You Can’t Say “I Forgive You”
Breaking the Bonds of Anger and Hurt
Three of the hardest words to utter in any language: “I forgive you.”
We say we forgive, but in the dark of the night, the pain surfaces. We can’t seem to erase it from memories. We want those who hurt us to suffer as we have. Must we be eaten up by pain for the rest of our lives? Is forgiveness just a nice dream?
No healthy mind can totally forget a wound that leaves ugly scars, but to remember with a bitter heart is a sign of only partial forgiveness. When you can’t say “I forgive you” walks you step by step along the path of complete forgiveness: a forgiveness that admits to understand the other person, and finally, lets go.
Licensed physician Grace Ketterman validates this counsel by sharing her own shocking story of divorce, shame, and reconciliation. Through her gentle approach, compelling stories, and David’s teaching you will discover the power to make it through the process of forgiveness – past the vulnerability, pain and anger – toward a true change of heart.
What Forgiveness is:
A long process
A disciplines daily choice
Positive selfishness
Taking Responsibility for your own mistakes
Learning to understand other people and their feelings
What Forgiveness is not:
Instant
Excusing the wrongdoer
Surrendering
Dependent on punishment
A guarantee of repentance
Never remembering any part of the offense
Impossible
